- If you are in immediate danger, call 911. Explain why you are in fear, even if the action seems harmless, such as leaving you a gift.
- Trust your instincts. Victims of stalking may feel pressured to downplay the stalker’s behavior, but stalking poses a real threat of harm. Don't downplay the danger. If you feel you are unsafe, you probably are.
- Take threats seriously. Danger is generally higher when the stalker talks about suicide or murder, or when a victim tries to leave or end the relationship.
- Get connected with a local victim advocate, a domestic violence program, or a rape crisis program to talk through your options and discuss safety planning. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1–800–799–SAFE to learn more about safety planning.
- Develop a safety plan, including things like changing your routine, arranging a place to stay, and having a friend or relative go places with you. Also, decide in advance what to do if the stalker shows up at your home, work, school, or somewhere else. Tell people how they can help you.
- Don't communicate with the stalker or respond to attempts to contact you.
- Keep evidence of the stalking by keeping a record or log of each contact with the stalker. When the stalker follows you or contacts you, write down the time, date, and place. Ask witnesses to write down what they saw. Be sure to supplement any police reports.
- Stalkers often use technology to contact their victims. Save all emails, text messages, photos, and postings on social networking sites as evidence of the stalking behavior.
- Tell family, friends, roommates, and co-workers about the stalking and seek their support.